RADishes-- sometimes you have to look back to see how far you have come!

Sometimes you have to look back to see how far you have come. It was nice to see the kids interact with a strange adult who came to our home this week, my friend and photographer Peggy Z. She came to take pictures for me of the kids.It was definately interesting. I tried to warn her about the kids but she had her own adjenda and didn't understand. So I pulled this up to show her. The following is from radkids.org

Signs & Symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder in Children & Adults

Symptoms of RAD in Children Superficially charming and engaging, particularly around strangers or those who they feel they can manipulate Indiscriminate affection, often to strangers; but not affectionate on parent’s terms Problems making eye contact, except when angry or lying A severe need to control everything and everyone; worsens as the child gets older Hypervigilant Hyperactive, yet lazy in performing tasks Argumentative, often over silly or insignificant things Frequent tantrums or rage, often over trivial issues Demanding or clingy, often at inappropriate times Trouble understanding cause and effect Poor impulse control Lacks morals, values, and spiritual faith Little or no empathy; often have not developed a conscience Cruelty to animals Lying for no apparent reason False allegations of abuse Destructive to property or self Stealing Constant chatter; nonsense questions Abnormal speech patterns; uninterested in learning communication skills Developmental / Learning delays Fascination with fire, blood and gore, weapons, evil; will usually make the bad choice Problems with food; either hoarding it or refusing to eat Concerned with details, but ignoring the main issues Few or no long term friends; tend to be loners Attitude of entitlement and self-importance Sneaks things without permission even if he could have had them by asking Triangulation of adults; pitting one against the other A darkness behind the eyes when raging

Symptoms of RAD in Adults Avoidant Unreasonable or inappropriate anger Hostile Overcritical of others and self Intolerant of rules and authority Lack of empathy or remorse Views others as untrustworthy and unreliable Shallow/Vain Feelings of self-importance Feelings of entitlement or arrogance Self-reliance; prefers to work alone than with others Views relationships as threatening, or not worth the effort May be a workaholic, as a way of avoiding relationships Feelings of being unique Grandiose or unrealistic fantasies Anxious/Ambivalent Compulsive caregiving Feels underappreciated Many short-term relationships Idealizes others Possessive; makes unrealistic demands of partners in relationships Preoccupied with relationships, and easily makes declarations of affection Obtains feelings of security through relationships Sees relationships as imbalanced Oversensitive to rejection, easily gives in to jealousy Sees others as being difficult to understand Unable to understand the concept of altruism Extreme emotions May Also Include Prone to depression Socially inappropriate behavior Impulsive Manipulative Risk-taking Self-mutilating behavior Often do not remember much of childhood experiences Darkness behind the eyes when angered At risk of abusing their own children Children with RAD may become adults diagnosed with sociopathic, narcissistic, antisocial, or borderline disorder